March break

 

Elizabeth had a great March Break. Things were pretty low key which was nice as we still have a pretty busy schedule. The weather was nice and we even got to go for a bike ride with her Triton bike. One of her highlights was going to a reptile play center and holding a tarantula called Mrs. Fuzzybottom. It still amazes me how fearless she is and how much she loves animals. She does still scream for Daddy if she sees a spider in her room but once we catch it she keeps it confined as her pet. She also enjoyed going accessory shopping which is her new trend, she chose lip gloss, a headband and sunglasses which she keeps in her pink purse (along with her Dinosaur).
We also celebrated her homecoming this week. It has been 6 years now since she has been home with us and we can't be any happier to have such a great kid. It is amazing that 6 years ago she came home like this.

Firsts

 
Elizabeth has had some pretty exciting first experiences which we are so happy about. She has had her first play date where a classmate invited her over to play. Elizabeth went to her friends house without me to play and had a pretty good time. I could tell she was pretty anxious as she almost chewed through her shirt she was scared by some of her friends toys (Buzz Light Year and Ken). This friend is a really sweet girl who always goes out of her way to help Elizabeth, she is the first in line to carry her backpack to me when I pick her up at school. Elizabeth also went to a classmates party on her own. Elizabeth has an epi-pen due to her nut allergy so it makes another reason to stay with her at parties but the parents who were both teachers had no concern with her nut allergy and were comfortable in using it if they had to. The mother running the party remarked how amazing all the girls were at helping Elizabeth on the stairs and watching out for her.
We are very lucky to have her in the school she is in the class is quite small and the families have all been so accepting. Over the past few months I am really noticing the social gap between her and her peers getting smaller and her interactions are much more appropriate and unprompted.
Another first here was Elizabeth's first bad word. It occurred while we were playing Doctor. Elizabeth was the Doctor, I was the Nurse and Daddy the patient Elizabeth while checking her patient directed the 'stupid nurse' to complete a task. The irony is I am a Nurse and so I took a bit of offense and sent her to her room. The patient had to leave the room for a chuckle.

The Dragon

 

 

Elizabeth is finishing up her yoga class at the children's treatment center where she receives her PT/OT/SLP services. This yoga class is a bit amusing as most of the children there are not zen like (Elizabeth may be the least zen like). It can get pretty wild and giggly but the instructor is calm and patient.

Elizabeth has really improved over the course of the group she can hold poses for longer and can get into her most favourite pose the dragon. The dragon is a great pose which she is really motivated to learn. To complete the dragon she must get into a high kneel and then go up on leg and maintain her balance. These steps are what we have been working in PT so she begin to get up to standing in a more mature pattern.

To practice her yoga at home we ordered these Yoga Pretzel cards they are a fun way work on strength and balance.

IEP's please don't hate me I am just a Mom

Hopefully we are now in the final draft of Elizabeth's IEP. In December we had Elizabeth's IPRC (Identification Placement and Review Committee) meeting and she was identified due to her physical disability and her hearing loss. An initial IEP was created by her SERT (Special Education Resource Teacher) and with Elizabeth's Hard of Hearing Itinerant Teacher. After consultation with some of my work colleagues it was felt to be a little 'slim'. Slim being only 2 goals; to interact with her peers appropriately (being aware of eye contact, cues etc) and saying 'please, thank you, would you' during social interactions.
Trying not to to react with my heart wanting to yell and scream 'after 6 years of intensive work learning to talk, walk, play, hear and learn and after sacrificing ourselves financially and emotionally you want her to say PLEASE and THANK YOU'? But I tactfully and with much research and returned the revised document which addressed areas that we work on at home and in her PT/OT therapy. As this is her SERT's first IEP regarding physical impairments she also sought expertise from the Principle and the Spec. Ed. Itinerant and we sat down to review the revised edition. I commend her SERT for being honest in stating that this was an area she was not used to and for seeking guidance but after frequent comments I still don't think she understands why we push Elizabeth so hard and we try to stay on top of things. Comments like 'having her under a microscope' and that she is following the SK gym curriculum without assistance drive me crazy. Is Elizabeth doing well at school 'yes' she is doing amazing and she is always improving but will she ever catch up physically 'no' and that's okay. We stopped a long time waiting for her to catch up but others still want us to go back to that painful time of trying to 'catch up'. With appropriate modifications to her environment she can try to keep up where her peers are but there also needs to be physical assistance and close supervision and that needs to be on her IEP (or in writing as her SERT says I like to have).
I left her school defeated I hate being talked to as 'the parent' when I am professionally one of them on my working days. I hate that the school staff think I am such a mean pushy mom who places her child under a microscope and makes them write everything down.
What I am thankful is for support in creating her new IEP and a much needed Safety Plan (thanks Krys) that the school now has in place. What I hope over time is the school understands why we work Elizabeth so hard and why we want the school to do the same and that I am an okay mom.

Our new friend the Orthodontist

We had our first trip to the Orthodontist to discuss Elizabeth's jaw. Since she was a baby people would often comment on her uncanny mouth and how she resembled Winston Churchill. Her under bite is so severe that when she bites down her bottom teeth completely cover her top teeth. Her Speech Pathologist wonders if some of her articulation difficulties are due to her under bite and Elizabeth's watchful dentist thought it was time we should meet Dr. F.
Of course Elizabeth was the youngest client in the office and was her usual chatty self asking the Dr. what his intentions were with her. He took one look in her mouth and pronounced her as his new friend. This new friendship (very expensive friendship) won't start until she is older and will include braces and surgery to align her jaw.
Dr. F mentioned to look out for her 6 year molars as they should come in soon which I think might be awhile as all her teeth come in very late. On the way home Elizabeth declared she had mouth pain and should stay home from school as her 6 year molars were coming in.
Once again the effects of her prematurity continue to pop up and reminds us this will be lifelong.

Birthday's

Since Elizabeth started school she has been the party girl. She has been invited to an endless string of parties which we are so happy about. She has been bowling, to a makeover party, to indoor playgrounds, a gymnastics party, Princess party and a jungle party. I have been with her for each party and it has been nice to see how she is interacting with other children and how they are interacting with her. Of course I still see a difference between her and her peers socially and she has yet to have a true friend at school but the children and their families are including her. At one party there was music playing Elizabeth and a little boy danced and he dipped her as they twirled around which was the sweetest thing to see.
We are looking forward to more parties, I just have to start saying no to the cake as I am not burning it off like the party girl.

Adaptive Dance

Hope you enjoy Elizabeth's dance recital she had this summer (she is the smallest one in the class). Her adapted dance class has been one of her favourite activities where she can be herself and have fun. With assistance from her helpers she is working on new skills and building her strength. Her helpers are the most amazing young girls who are so talented and who give time from their busy schedules to help Elizabeth. We are so thankful to her teacher for giving children with disabilities and opportunity to dance and to shine.

Hooray for Snow

Finally we have snow, it has been miserably muddy until now. Elizabeth continues to LOVE the snow; she loves to eat it, roll in it, to eat it, climb in it, to eat it, build with it and eat some more. Have established how much she loves to eat it? She grazes so much that her face is a chapped mess and we have had to develop guidelines with snow eating.
I too love the snow, there is so much to do and I enjoy shovelling the driveway (no I am not nuts)I just love being outside getting exercise. We have been out as often as we can to go tobogganing at a local hill and Elizabeth has a ball. I love that she is getting an amazing workout by walking up hills. It is nice to see each year how she is improving as last year she needed lots of help to climb up the hill and this year we just need to hold her arm.
Elizabeth continues to be a daredevil and loves the 'jumps' and now can hold herself upright on the toboggan during bumps. She even held on tight enough to knock a man out of the way as he was in her path. She also learned from her Uncle that donuts are not only the ones you eat and they are now added to her daredevil list. Hopefully we can keep this white stuff so we can get out more and enjoy winter.

Anxiety

This cute little fella in the picture is capable of causing emotional breakdowns filled with crying to the point of vomiting for Elizabeth. A visit to a department store 3 years ago and me pressing his tummy has permanmently etched a traumatic memory in Elizabeth's little head. This is not the only creature that upsets Elizabeth you can add Wall-E, baby alive and baby toys that play music.
At her last appointment with her Developmental Pediatrician a toy went off in the hall and sent Elizabeth into an emotional meltdown and the rest of the appointment Elizabeth would not look at the Dr. and was very anxious. After a long conversation with her and talking about some other concerning behaviours (chewing on fingers and clothing, highly excitable) she feels that she has anxiety and all the new changes this year have caused her anxiety to increase. I had been blaming her new behaviours on sensory needs but after seeing how these behaviors stopped over the Christmas holiday I am in agreement.
Our new plan is to work on desensitization with the objects that cause her so much fear and to teach her coping skills to use when faced with an anxiety provoking situation. This week she has conquered Baby Alive and has declared that Iggle Piggle can wait until she is 7. I think Iggle Piggle is coming sooner than next year but we will do it together (and on an empty stomach).

Merry Christmas

We hope everyone had a good Christmas holiday. Of course our time off has flown by and one more day until we are back to work. Despite some sort of influenza virus that ravaged both Elizabeth and Daddy for a good week each we still had a good time. We kept to our tradition and went to Christmas Eve mass with the girls and they enjoyed the children's service and learned about why we celebrate Christmas. Elizabeth had a great time Christmas morning she woke up at 2:00 am and proceeded to open her stocking therefore was pinned down by me and we all slept in until 8:00 which was a real treat. She received the Tangled hair braider princess that was top on her list and as soon as she came in the living room despite being wrapped in heavy paper was greeted by a yelping puppy in a box (one that requires batteries we are not going there with a live one) once unwrapped she discovered GoGo the walking puppy which she loves.
We had a great Christmas breakfast with Grandma Ellie and Grandpa Boris and was spoiled by them. We ended our day at Grams and Gramps house with her cousins Madison and Danica and once again was spoiled again with her Video Girl Barbie (a total change from Rocky the talking dump truck last year). Of course there were some dragons, hot wheels cars and dinos as gifts but I am loving the fact that Barbies were top of her list for Christmas. As usual we have spent a large portion of our holiday trying to find room for all her new goods and I think a trip to IKEA may be in the future. Mommy and Daddy shared a gift and we now have a better camera so improved pictures will be in the future.